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19 Month Old Takes 1 1/2 Hours to Fall Asleep

19 Month Old Takes 1 1/2 Hours to Fall Asleep

The Toddler Sleep Problem

Can you please help me my 19mth old takes up to 11/2 hours to go to sleep at night he talks and plays and is mostlty quite happy.

He wakes most of the time at 7am and has one sleep in the afternoon he goes down between 12.30 and 1pm and we sleep from 2 to 3 hours ( he is teething at present which upsets things a bit) and he is back in bed at 7pm but does not want to go to sleep then he has been waking duing the night but I have put it down to teething and the dummy sometimes gets lost he only has it at night - he was in a safety sleep up until about 2 months ago so I gave him a peroid to adjust but this just seems to take to long.

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Thanks for all the extra information about your toddler’s sleep.

Before making any suggestions, one thing to consider is if your toddler really has a sleep problem. If he is happy lying in his cot but takes a while to go to sleep, this in itself is not really a problem. However if he is grumpy from not enough sleep, or is crying/grizzling about going to sleep, then certainly I would recommend you take action to get him to go to sleep quicker.

It sounds like you have your toddler in a very good routine, which is a great start. Then I think there are a couple of key things that should make a difference for you:

  1. Positive sleep associations

  2. Comfortable sleeping environment

  3. Settling technique

  4. Dummy use

Positive sleep associations

Sleep associations really help a toddler fall asleep and also resettle during the night. These are the things which tell him it’s sleep time, and help him fall asleep without needing you there. It’s essential that anything you use for a sleep association will be there if he wakes in the night, which is the key difference from a sleep association with you or his dummy.

Sleep music

rather than using his light-show which plays for 10 minutes, I recommend leaving a baby sleep CD on repeat quietly right through the night. This will mean he has the music for as long as it takes him to fall asleep, and he should be contented lying listening to it. It will also be a familiar and soothing sound to help him resettle if he wakes in the night. Music for Dreaming is both lovely.

Comfort blankie

A little blankie or special toy is a great association with sleeping, and is great because you can take it anywhere you need him to sleep. He can use it to snuggle up to and rub on his face etc. You can get him attached to one by getting it to smell like you (put it up your top for a few hours/overnight) and I recommend only letting a toddler have it at sleep times ( not something to cart round and give him whenever he is upset). I have a good range of suitable blankies, and Cuski is my favourite.

Sleeping bag

the process of getting zipped into a sleeping bag every time you sleep quickly forms a clear message to babies it’s time to sleep, and also fixes the problem of waking from cold. Make sure you use your sleeping bag for all sleeps. (I always take mine when I am out, so Tom has sleeps in the pushchair etc in his sleeping bag).

Comfortable sleep environment

It sounds like your toddler is certainly taking his time to adjust to being out of the safety sleep. I am assuming that at bedtime he is moving around and standing up, and this is one of the key reasons it’s taking so long to go to sleep.

Given his movement, he is also likely to be waking up cold and standing up when he wakes. These issues can make resettling more difficult, as a child will be fully awake.

You have a couple of options here and I really recommend choosing one or both:

Babe Sleeper. This is a light weight sleeping bag attached to the base sheet. he could sit up and roll onto his tummy, but not stand up or crawl around.

He is getting on the older side to start using a Babe Sleeper, but if you think he would sleep better if he wasn’t moving round, this would be your best bet. It will mean he is safe from falling out of his cot, can’t get his legs out the side, and will learn to lie down and go to sleep. Regardless of which settling option you go for, the Babe Sleeper is fabulous for helping babies sleep through.

In the summer you can use the Babe Sleeper by itself. But in spring/winter/autumn I would put either a quilted or merino sleeping bag inside the Babe Sleeper, so he will be warm all night and won’t be able to go anywhere.

If you think he is too old to start using something that keeps him in one place, then I recommend you use a toddler sleeping bag. This would mean you don’t need any blankets and he will stay warm all night, no matter where in his cot he ends up. Sleeping bags also are a great sleep association as I mentioned above – you put him in, and he knows it’s sleep time.

At his age I would go for the toddler Woobabe Sleeping Bag – this will last until he is 4 and you can use it year round. Woolbabe bags are merino & cotton, and are just fabulous for helping children sleep better.

Dummy use

From your information, it does sound like your toddler has a strong sleep with his dummy, meaning he thinks he needs his dummy to fall asleep. So when he wakes in the night, he is looking for his dummy to help him fall back to sleep.

Now’s a good time to decide if you want him to keep having a dummy to fall asleep. You have a couple of options:


  • Use a night light and put several dummies in his cot. Show him how to find one and resettle himself. Explain that you are not coming in to do it for him, and don’t!

  • Teach him to fall asleep without the dummy (see self settling below).


Self settling / sleep books

If you want your toddler to fall asleep without leaving him to cry, I recommend the information in the fabulous book ‘The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers & Preschoolers’ – this covers weaning off dummies, needing parent with you to fall asleep etc. I’ve used it with my toddler, and the techniques are very simple and effective.